So many inspirational pictures and sites will tell you that falling in love with your spouse every day is essential to a healthy, thriving marriage.
The thing that they leave out is how to actually make that happen. When you’re faced with morning breath, unfinished household chores and the busyness of life, it’s really hard to find any little spark of romance. As time goes on you may even let your mind wander back to those dating days when everything seemed so simple and every little thing your then-boyfriend/girlfriend did was magic.
What would you say if I told you that you could have those days back? Impossible, right? Wrong! You need to keep falling in love with your spouse to keep the love in your marriage.
Here are three ways to make a habit out of it every day.
1) Appreciate the little things
In marriage, it’s the little things that are actually the big things. So many actions become so routine after several years together that you might forget to pay them any attention anymore.
One way to remember to appreciate those small things is to consider how life would be if they hadn’t happened.
For example, when you’re sitting at your desk opening your lunchbox, consider what would happen if your wife didn’t lovingly pack a meal for you? When you get a sweet “I love you text” consider how you wouldn’t feel so good if it hadn’t happened. When your husband holds your hand in the grocery store, think about how you’d miss his gentle touch if he weren’t there.
2) Write to your spouse, often
You may not be as smooth as Shakespeare, but there’s nothing your husband or wife would rather read than your love, desire and devotion communicated in your own words.
You don’t have to go old-school and mail a love letter (though that’s a fun idea!), you can make a habit of sending longer texts throughout the day when inspiration hits you.
Maybe your wife’s hair fell a certain way this morning that made you weak in the knees..maybe your husband kissed your neck and it sent tingles down your spine. Focus on those moments and tell your spouse how they made you feel.
3) Keep record of right-doings
A lot of fights in marriage especially start with the classic “you always…” and “you never…” It can be so easy for us to keep mental records of all of the things our spouses do that we don’t agree with, build up our arsenal and then use those records against them the first chance we get.
What if instead, we cleaned out those files and replaced them with positive and encouraging sentiments? I’m sure your husband would much rather hear “you always work so hard for us” rather than “you always leave your clothes on the floor.”
Sometimes you need to just let in go in favor of maintaining the happiness in the relationship.
How else do you keep the love flowing in your marriage? Let us know in the comments!